Now ask yourself, “How many times have I wanted to say" no" and didn’t?”
When we believe we don't have the right or option to say "no" we are often left with feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration. Many people who are unable to say “no” to the demands of their colleagues, family, and friends find themselves battling with thoughts of negativity and decreasing positive attitudes.
People who are unable to say, “no” often struggle with taking care of themselves and tend to neglect their own personal needs while working hard to be of help or assistance to others. They often give of themselves to everyone and leave nothing for themselves, making them prone to stress, illness, and depression. People who are unable to say "no" have a hard time putting themselves first.
Personal boundaries and exerting our right to say “NO!” is the key to great mental health.
Feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration are caused by the belief that we have to be everything for everyone, all the time. These type of thoughts destroy our self-esteem, mess with our relationships, and contribute to general unhappiness.
The belief that you must put others first before yourself reinforces the message that you are not worthy of personal space, that your thoughts and feelings are not important, and can cause you to engage in potentially harmful activities Often times when we have poor insight into our behavior and don’t know who we are, we overwhelm ourselves by the demands of others or let someone else dictate what we do.
People who are unable to say "no" are at greater risk for depression and anxiety.
Feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration toward others can be alleviated by establishing personal boundaries and getting to know yourself a little better.
This is my prescription for you: Do you boo, do you. Kick back, put your feet, up and say, "Nope, not today."
If you or someone you know would like help on setting boundaries or getting to know yourself a little better, please visit www.therapywithRaquel.com . Raquel Buchanan specializes in building self-esteem and self-confidence in women and teens. If you would like a free 30 minute consultation call Raquel at 818-839-2032 or email Raquel at Raquel.firstname.lastname@example.org
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