Therapy for italians

A few years ago I made a genogram (aka. a very complex family tree).  I went back at least 7 generations to check my lineage, and I even saw a picture of a great-great-great-great-great aunt’s signature on a census. I felt like a detective uncovering the mystery of my life. 

Find out more about genograms  here: What is a genogram? ​

Early on in my investigation  I found out I was Italian. Sicilian, actually. My grandfather’s mother on my mom’s side was brought to the United States from Italy and placed in an orphanage until she was 18. 

When I found out I was Italian everything made sense! 

I was better able to understand the dynamics of my family, and who I am and why I do the things I do. Some of our quirky, strange, and even toxic behaviors were common amongst Italians. 

Italians are often seen as "overly dramatic" when in fact this is not the case.

This stereotype is very difficult for Italians and can create trouble in their intimate relationships. When we or others don't understand the dynamics of our culture it is easy to feel lonely or misunderstood.

Italians value emotional expression and view it as a form of bonding. When an italian speaks it is often overly expressive. The Italian person communicates with a value of sharing their emotional experience. Through their language, volume, tone, and movement the Italian is trying to give you insight into how they feeling. Sharing their unique experience in a situation, even if that means getting a little loud, is important to the Italian. 

Therapy for Italians encourages you to be animated and openly express who you are.  In therapy you shouldn't feel the need to sensor yourself or limit your emotional experience. Therapy for Italians gives you a space where you can be you and not feel judged for it. As an Italian therapist I can guarantee that I won't be scared away by your feelings and I'll never take the volume of your voice personally.  

I recognize the importance of authenticity and I appreciate emotional expression!

if you or someone you love is experiencing trouble in their life or relationships due to issues with their identity and would like to get to know themselves better please visit www.TherapywithRaquel.com for more information. Call or email Raquel for your free 30 minute phone consultation at 818-839-2032, Raquel.mftx@gmail.com

Raquel Buchanan practices marriage and family counseling in Upland and Palm Springs, Ca. Raquel is a marriage and family therapist intern MFTI #85262 with Norina Murphy & Associates and Caulfield Counseling. She specializes in building self esteem in young women and teens. 
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